Choose Where You Place Your Focus
Typically a person with a fear of public speaking will focus their thoughts inwardly on how they feel. They will worry if they are breathing too fast, if they are hearing their heart beating too fast or if their speech seems shaky or nervous. The more they focus internally the bigger the panic becomes until they start to feel intense feelings of anxiety which can cause them to freeze or even leave the room.
This particular problem can be halted in its tracks if you choose to focus thoughts externally instead. Choose a friendly face in your audience and focus on them instead. Or alternatively guide your focus to a spot or a point in the room and be mindful of exactly what colours, textures and shapes you can see there. If a negative voice in your mind tries to get you to focus internally just ignore it and refocus your attentian to the external person or object. You can even say the words relax and calm in your mind slowly over and over again to remind yourself to not let unhelpful internal thoughts take control.
Use Visualisation Techniques to Deliver the Speech you Want
A typical client that we see with public speaking anxiety has been practising negative visualisation possibly for years. What do I mean by this? Simply put it means that instead of seeing themselves delivering their talk well they have created visions of disasters in their mind. That means they will have seen themselves stammering and stuttering, freezing on stage, the audience laughing at any pauses or slip ups and everyone talking about how badly things went. The reality of speaking in public is far more mundane in most circumstances.
So instead of creating catastrophic disaster scenarios we ask our clients to spend a couple of weeks imagining the best possible scenarios. That means speaking freely and easily, the audience smiling and people clapping or at the very least showing their appreciation for what they have been told. When you mentally rehearse the very best possible solutions you can change the way you think.
See a Professional
Finally in some circumstances it pays to get professional help. This is because with some of our clients the negative response or their phobia for public speaking is so intense that it can only be changed by dealing with whatever is bothering the subconscious. Think of the subconscious as your bodyguard. At one point in your life something happened to scare you to embarrass you when you were in front of others and from that point on this internal bodyguard has decided to fiercely protect you in case the same thing happens again. That means at any point it sees you entering into a similar situation it gives you feelings of anxiety to warn you to run in the other direction.
Hypnosis for public speaking fears is a great way to change how the subconscious thinks. In particular if you get a Clinical Hypnotherapist who specialises in finding the root causes for a problem it may be possible to unconver the origins and change the way your mind thinks. Typically public speaking programs last for three to six sessions and can make a big difference to the way a person feels in a relatively shor time.
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